As I was telling you a few weeks ago, this guy I kind of like has shagged one of my friends.
We are a group of 7 girls, but we all have very different taste in men. I’m not saying that has not happen in the past that two o my friends has been with the same guy, but it never happen to me.
Anyway, I was extremely embarassed when I told V. that I like him. Her answer has been “Yeah girl! You go for it!Shag him till dies!”
So when yesterday I was working and one of my colleague from my second job told me the guy was in the bar where I work I thought that was nice. When I realised that who he stopped for a drink with was V. I literally panic. Honestly. I put my trainers on and went for a walk up in the mountains, I stopped at a view point and tried to remember how does it feels to breath.
I messaged her saying “So what you meet the guy and forget to tell me?” and she was like “Oh it just happened, I was with a friend and he passed by and stopped. The other girl left and I kept him company for lunch and when he left he even paid for me.” I felt broken again. The little pieces of me that I really made an effort to keep together were shattered. Again.
Friends don’t do that. Or they say it. They put you in good light. They want what’s good for you. They want to make you happy. Or at least to me. That’s what I would have done if I was in her position.
I kept quiet for a couple of hours and then I told her.
I don’t need more crap in my life. I don’t need crappy shady people. I want to be happy. I deserve it.
So I worked on breakfast today. He came with his friend, chatted about work. Left. Added my colleague on Instagram. 🤣 Honestly. ShE came to me and was like “You friend started following me.” WTF is wrong with me? I’m going to ask my brother.
I just feel like crying.
I was really ready. I done myself a pep talk and I was going for it. I was going to ask him to a concert we both wanted to go that will be in two weeks. I was going to do it tomorrow morning, I was going to make him a cappuccino and tell “Btw I was right, they were doing a summer concert. If you want we could go together”. But that would have been too nice. I open fucking Instagram and here he is liking all the slutty pictures with lovely motivational quotes from the girl across the street: skinny, long brown hair and fake lips. Standard. Literally standard. Why not me? Why not the pic of my dog? Nope. Do not deserve it. Every time I feel like my confidence and self esteem flying out of the window. FML. I lost 4 fucking kg. Still not enough. I’ll never be the skinny bitch that get attentions. And now I can’t even sleep. I just need something in life. I’m so fed up.
Throw out, blow up, hold in
Show fine, no signs, grow blind
I dressed up. I looked nice. I was ready. Ready for anything. Ready for a kiss, ready for a shag, ready for even just talking. I got nothing. As usual. Nothing. Oh no, i did get a “hi”. Great. Fucking great.
I looked at my friend and told her when he wanted to shag our other friend he wasn’t so hard to catch. Not a joy in life.
I feel like the duff, honestly. I’m the friend. Everyone’s friend. Nice and smiley, chatty (until I like someone). That’s it. Don’t deserve anything. No one really fancy me. No one text me. If I didn’t have my friends I wouldn’t even need a phone.
I’m really and empty. I feel embarrassed cause when tomorrow he’ll come ask me for a cappuccino he’ll know I have a crush on him. And he’ll be embarrassed cause doesn’t like me but he is polite.
I’m so tired of being lonely
I still have some love to give..
Yesterday morning I was in my car driving to work and this song came on and it just got stuck in my head. Music is literally my life companion right now. That’s all I do. Listen to music. And work of course.
But now I feel the need. I feel the need to love and be loved. To have someone that cuddles me, fancy me and make me feel special, while I do the same. I never thought I wanted to love again but here I am.
Sunday I went to a wedding and I was with a couple of friends of the guy I like (that I was telling you in my last post) and I wanted to impress them but I’m not good and I’m too shy. Barely spoke and I was so bored I pretty much spent the all day looking at my phone and hoping for a miracle. But nothing happens in this bloody life. The only bright side is that in mid July my friend and his will celebrate their bday together so I will get the chance at least maybe to speak with him. I still have tomorrow at work but who knows if I will manage. I’m so embarrassed. I just want to be noticed.
Please, give me a bloody sign!
Ok. So I take back whatever I said yesterday. I’ve been kind of happy and I was hoping I was gonna have a chance but let’s be honest cute guys want hot girls and I’m out of the league. I really just wanted to talk to him. Never a joy in this bloody life. Oh well. I will survive as I usually do. A little more bitter and cynical. B.
How weird does it feel when you start looking around again?
I feel the need to be hold and hugged. I feel like I want physical contact. I want to fall asleep beside someone. Has been a few happy weeks to be honest. Like my job, I’m on a diet and I actually see something happening and I started liking someone new. I’m too scared to make a move, I just hope he will ask me out. It’s not about sex, it’s different. I feel like I want to know him and that’s so weird for me because I didn’t want to know someone for the last 8 years. How do you play it along? I should go there and be like “hey I know you to shagged a couple of times my friend a few years ago but I kind of find you attractive now so how about a cuppa?” Yeah. Don’t think that’s how you do it. And if my friend style it’s his standard, let’s be honest I’m the total opposite so don’t really think he could be interested in me. He is just so smiley and kind and I’m not used to it.